my first blog "LOVE !!!!! The most complicated term in this world"

Okies here i go .. as everyone starts of their first blog they start of saying ... my first blog wanted to write it from a long time blah blah blah .Me to wanted to have my own blog from a long time, so here i choose the most complicated term in every ones life "LOVE" :- My first blog ....


It was a saturday morning !!! my alaram started ringing with a song, it sounded like " DIL KHUD GARZ HAI, PHISALA HAI PHIR HAATH SE, KAL USKA RAHA ,AB HAI TERE " i woke up and started my daily routine went cycling and came back. News paper had just arrived , i opened the news paper the main heading was "LOVE" bloody love , a 23 year guy suicides after his break up and he found out she broke up coz she had was seeing some one else so he suicided ... i was like what a looser!!! . I just went into the details of the news ... i dont know why!!!! but sud suddenly flash back struck my mind was digging into my past and found out about a girl whom i was about to propose .Those few months which i spent with her to get know her , the fights , messages , walks and then realized she likes some one else.So here i describe how i found out she liked some one else.
It was weekend and a rainy day too, was messaging her an d she said aww i wanna have a hot coffee now.I was asking myself should i call her for a coffee .A messaged beeped in my phone and it was her she said are u there?? would u like to come over for a coffee.I was amazed . i said okies with full smiles and i said cuppa at 2 , but bill is on you. She said deal.This was the moment i said to myself i should and i am going ask her out today . It was totally different scene in the reality .I went there at 2 she was there and asked me what u wanna have , i said any hot coffee of your choice would do.She marched towards the counter , she had left her phone on the table and a message beeped , i dont generally look into others phone.I am very well behaved :-) , but this time i reached her phone and and selected the read button .Thats all i was shattered .
Now comming back to the scene at my place , me reading news paper and digging that saturady. It started flowing in like a movie in my mind frame after frame, i was feeling odd ,i felt like i was in a theatre and a movie was screening in my mind and i was the only person sitting in the theatre, there were tears in my eyes , i came to reality . Then i checked the surroundings luckily no one was there. just wept and went into my room . I had also heard that she was happy with that guy and he was a foreigner (as i say heard it, it might be a rumour also i am not telling its proven fact). I was like ok atleast she is happy and let her future be settled.... So thats when i thought ok i wanna know whats the meaning of love. i called up few of my friends obviosuly ppl who were committed i wanted to know what they feel and finally wanted to come to a conclusion what is love about to the opposite sex.
Is it lust ??
Is it that feeling like wanna be committed kind of feeling??
Is it a search for a soul who respects u r feelings and help in all decesion making??

Well to tell about my opinion i dont know , i have not had any such experiences of being in a relationship and experiencing it hmmmm. So there were so many questions in my mind , i wanted answers to all those.

here were the few answers i found out from few of ppl who were committed

1) guy :- love ah gothilla maga , yake i like her anta gothilla but i can do any thing for her even i can just give my life to her... She has been a part and parcel of my life.I dont know where i would have been without her he said..

2) girl:- she goes like .. hey raghu strange ya !!!! u wanna find out about love ha ha .. even i started laughing .. i said jokes apart i wanna serious answer, she goes on like..
I feel secured when i am with my guy
I feel like achieving things , i feel i am more resposible being committed.
he takes care of me as if am a small kid, makes me feel comfortable
of cousre the talks, the walks, the hugs these little things gives a new dimension to my life
Its different being committed .. its something cannot be explained it can oly be experienced dude ..
then she was like why the F*** u drink ???? hmmm may be i feel good or i feel lost when i drink(i am not a regular drinker :-), just to inform you ppl :-)) she was like yes that is what love is and it can oly be experienced not told.

3) guy:- This one is a flirt... he goes like
lust lust is the only thing i love for ..
he salso went of to flash back maga ... u know my first girl right , it was during school days they both loved like anything they had almost an 7 year relationship . It seemed like they were made for each other .. in the mean time both of them graduated girl got of a job and he did not get a job .. still their relationship was going strong, one day she said i feel very insecure of my future and she dumped him then he got to know she was seeing her team leader.... since then i dont respect relationships , i make i have fun , they also have fun and say tata bye.. at lst he said he can never forget his 1st love .. Coz of her i have lost values, ethics, belief in a relation and due to that i am a FLIRT now..

These were few of the common answers which i got .. but there was no specific answer which said ya i love her/him coz..... i did not get an satisfying answer why ppl fall in love what makes them going
Finally i went to the most mature person my friend, philosopher, an art teacher by profession ... He is married and has 2 kids . Here are the few things he said ..
1) a lover is a liar to himself he lies the truthful are loveless like oyster their eyes. some great fellow told this ante i dont remember his name
2) unconditional sacrifice.
3) forgiving the flaws and accepting the differences
4)Transformation of u r life to the other person
5) your life is for some else that some else is love .. u are here to live u r life for some one else.
FINALLY HE TOOK OUT SOME BOOK AND SAID FEW SENTENCES ...i remeber only a line in that it said
"THERE IS NO TRUE MEANING IN LOVE, LOVE WITH MEANING IS NOT LOVE"....HA HA what a saying this was my 1st blog would love to have all u r comments and what u think about love...